GAVID018 – Trust

Septmeber 2018

Summary

1. Contributors- Gabe Arnold, James Gafney, Brad Milford
2. “The audience is smarter than the world of marketing gives it credit.”- Gafney
3. “I’m on a mission to be happy.”- Gafney
4. Source: Katie Rasoul
5. “I’ve always taught the big game of just ‘be yourself’, but in a lot of ways I wasn’t. I decided it was time and finally learned to do it”. – Gafney
6. “I want to cartwheel into retirement doing things I love with people I dig.” – Gafney
7. Resonating- a connection of beliefs – Brad Milford
8. Relationship- that is how friendship is built- Brad Milford
9. According to Milford, parts of authenticity
   1. Self-awareness
   2. Vulnerability
   3. Courage
10. How to Trust People
    1. Don’t give everyone the same level of trust.
       1. Example: You wouldn’t give your eight year old the keys to your car, but handing your keys over to a trusted adult is much more reasonable.
    2. Trust people at the level they are at.
    3. Consider the situation you are in.
    4. According to Milford- Ask: Am I working out of love or out of fear?
       1. If it is fear, consider: I need to protect myself but I can still work out of love.
    5. “Give them love and walk away.” – Kassel Fox
    6. With appropriate boundaries, people who are not trustworthy will either be ejected or self-eject themselves from the project/company.
    7. Map out and clearly articulate expectations.
    8. Improve vetting process.
11. When Trust is Lost
    1. Ask yourself:
       1. Were my expectations clear?
       2. What did I do to cause this?
       3. Did I have systems and were they in place?
    2. Possible Resolutions
       1. resolve it or cut and run.
       2. Unintentional broken trust: short leash
       3. Intentional broken trust: cut relationship
12. Rebuilding Trust
    1. Both must agree to build trust
    2. Both must be fully committed at the same level
    3. Engage in character building exercises
    4. You need to make a choice and they need to make a choice. It’s not one-sided.
13. The power of choice
    1. “If you want to change your situation , change your programming.”  Gabe Arnold
    2. “It’s simple but its not easy.” Arnold
    3. Levels of choice
       1. Decide
       2. Commitment
       3. High Resolve
    4. How badly do you want “it”?
14. FInal comments
    1. “I believe in second chances.”- Milford
    2. Display trust
    3. “Whatever you do, be all in”.  Arnold